Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.
This quote has always resonated with me. Even before I discovered its existence. I have been a planner for as long as I can remember. Maybe not a great one, but for most things, I have something in mind. Might be more of a dream than a strategy…you get the idea, right? Well, life always gets the last laugh as I have come to learn.
While growing up, I was determined to be an actress. I auditioned, did community theatre, local TV commercials, and even landed a starring role in a documentary for The History Channel. Several years after earning a Theatre degree, I realized that my headshot and resume were burning a hole in the floor of my bedroom closet. But always out in the open were unfinished manuscripts and short stories that I had written. I remember that painful moment when it hit me that an acting career wasn’t going to happen no matter how much I thought I wanted it. I felt a sense of relief as I began to focus on my writing skills.
When Hubby and I were dating many, many years ago, I just knew that we would get married a few years after college. I had not planned on his job offer at a company over 800 miles away the same week he graduated from college. Nor did I plan on us living that far apart for almost 5 years.
My cancer diagnosis in 2005 threw everything in my life into a tailspin. Planning of any kind was off the table for quite a while. Treatments, doctor visits, tests, lab work, and my job were all dictated by medical staff. Sure, they were saving my life, but all I could see was my lack of control. They told me where, when, and how to do everything. I had to learn to let go. That was…hard.
At 40 years old, I also planned to have 2 or 3 kids by now…
I did not become a famous actress. I became a famous wife and mother, because that’s how Hubby and The Deuce see me. Hubby and I did not get married when I thought we would. We married when we were older and a little bit wiser. I did not have control of my daily activities when I was sick. I learned to stop sweating the small stuff and I am healthier. I do not have a house full of kids. I have one who is the light of my life and fills my heart. Life happened to me while I was busy making other plans and because of it, I am happier.
This post is for Day 4 of the Blog Every Day In May Challenge: Favorite quote and why you love it